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A Glimmer of Hope

Mrs. Halima is a 36-year-old mother of four. She and her family were displaced from her place of residence, Homs, and are currently residing in Jaramana.

Shortly after her marriage, problems with her husband arose due to his mistreatment and abuse. Unfortunately, she bore this burden alone since her parents lived outside Syria.

Her husband’s violence and abuse increased even more after their displacement, whereby she was continuously beaten and humiliated in front of her children till she once collapsed and had to go to a hospital.

Since this abuse also affected her children, she thought of getting a divorce, but didn’t get any encouragement from her parents.
Mrs. Halima’s eldest son left school because of their bad financial situation, and started learning a new profession_ sewing. As for her, she worked in a coal factory.
Interventions:
Mrs. Halima was introduced to the Jaramana through a friend of hers, and registered her young son in the center’s activities.

She started attending awareness campaigns on GBV, and was later on transferred to the case manager. After several sessions, the intervention plan was developed.
 She was referred to the Psychological Services Programme, and began attending sessions with the psychologist despite her difficult working conditions. “After my sessions with the specialist, I learned how to deal with my husband, and he no longer beats me. My psychological state changed, as I became more acquainted with my rights, and knew how to defend myself. Now I feel strong, and I know that there are people who support me” expressed Mrs. Halima.
 She was then referred to the Vocational Training Programme, where she got a sewing machine to practice the profession in Homs.

 She and her son started working on the machine, and their financial situation started improving.
These interventions had a great impact on Mrs. Halima and her children, especially her eldest son, who was aware of all the problems and was deeply affected by them. Since she started working and her psychological state improved, the affected son became stronger, more responsible, and supportive of his mother.
Mrs. Halima said: “I am deeply grateful to SSSD for their support. For every woman out there subject to violence and abuse, do not keep quiet and abandon your right… Be strong for yourself and your children, because strength is found within you!”

 

Today is the Culmination of my Success

A.TH is a 17-year old young man coming from an internally displaced family.Speaking about his life, he always used the word “loser”, particularly when referring to his failures: failing the ninth-grade national exam, dropping out of school, and being admitted into Khaled Ibn Al-Waleed Juvenile Center for abusing and selling drugs.


He joined the school attached to the center following his parents wish.

 
He missed out on many classes and teachers always complained about his attitude in class. His only response to the teaching staff corrective instructions was, “I am a loser, that’s what my father and mother have always thought of me, I don’t understand why they want me to go back to school now!” Then he began talking about his school drop-out experience: 
“I had an eye removal surgery at my early childhood days due to a tumor and my parents couldn’t afford an artificial eye. My embarrassment of my face appearance doubled and tripled as days passed by, and I let my hair grow long to hide my face.

At the beginning of the school year of the ninth-grade, the school principal instructed me to cut my hair, neglecting my feelings and reasons. Up until one day, she decided to expel me and cornered me to cut my hair to dismiss the expulsion.

That day was the breaking point of my life, I decided not to return to her school, I thought I was able to carry on with my education somewhere else and avoid such unjust rules.” 
He carried on, “For the second time in my life, with my parents’ tight financial abilities, I was not able to join a private center, and thus resorted to self-study, it was very tough experience, I was doomed to fail. My parents blamed me for quitting school and I heard the word loser a thousand times. I spent long hours on the streets to avoid hearing that word and met new friends, who were more understanding and encouraged me to work to prove that I am not a loser.”


“After sometime, I worked in a bakery oven; however, my self-esteem was still distorted, whenever I looked into my parents’ eyes, the word loser flashed, and sadness became my closest friend. The owner of the bakery oven gradually became a close friend of mine, one day as I was opening up my heart about my disappointments, he gave me an illegal street drug, the relief and ecstasy I felt were great.

I have been using drugs from that day onward, they help me escape the bitter reality. However, I found myself in need of more money, so I decided to sell drugs. Working as a dealer, I was arrested on the very first day and admitted into Khaled Ibn Al-Waleed Juvenile Center.

My parents want me to return to school, but I can’t wait to be discharged to rework in drug selling, it is my dream, I will make lots of money and prove to the world and my parents that I am not a loser.”

At that point, the education officer of the center activated her intervention with the young man:

⁻ When you dropped out of school, I noticed that you were determined on carrying on with your education. Was it just to prove to the principal that you did not need her school? 
⁻ No!
⁻ What was your dream? 
⁻ I wanted to be a journalist, a big shot one, I wanted to change the world with my words, I wanted to do a lot of things..
⁻ I wish you are aware of the way you talk about your dreams
⁻ What do you mean Miss? 
⁻ The way you are talking is very passionate and enthusiastic
⁻ It was my dream
⁻ Let’s give it a try, you can make your dream come true
⁻ I am a loser
⁻ You faced some tough circumstances like any other person in the world. You overcame them, and you should start all over again.
⁻ So you think that I am not a loser? 
⁻ You are not
⁻ Can I? 
⁻ It is up to you; you have to decide. 
⁻ I can 

The teaching staff worked in tandem to motivate and encourage the young man and spread the word about his educational progress; however, there was a bottle neck, the teachers noticed that he was high several times and heard him talking to his peers about the positive effects of drugs on the memory and focus levels.

The education officer was direct and asked him not to use drugs when attending classes. He kept using drugs upon entering the classes, even though she kept asking him not to, up until she decided along with the psychosocial support team to put him in a situation similar to the one he faced in his old school.

She expelled for lack of commitment toward school rules. He sent her many messages through mediators, some were negative “It is better to quit school” and others were positive “I will commit”. 
One day he came to her crying..
⁻ Why are you crying? 
⁻ I sent everyone I know to speak to you and you did not approve my return to school. 
⁻ There is one person who may make me change my mind.
⁻ Who? 
⁻ It’s you. 
- Remember the first time you quit school (I am not defending the principal) I think that she wanted you to believe in yourself; however, you did not understand her message and thus your reaction was not correct.

For the second time in your life, I am telling you to believe in yourself and your capabilities; overcome your weaknesses to make your dreams come true. 
The discussion lasted for two hours and eventually he returned to school and passed the exam. 
On the day the results of the ninth- grade national exam were announced, the young man ran all over the center crying out of happiness and saying, “I made it, I passed the exam, I am not a loser,” approaching all of his peers hugging them. 
⁻ He hurriedly approached the officer saying, “I want the baccalaureate books.” 
⁻ Slow down a little bit.
⁻ I want the books.. 
⁻ You have to register for the General Secondary certificate exam. 
⁻ Explain please.
⁻ Slow down a little bit.
⁻ I want the books; I want to have a piece of my dream next to me when I sleep tonight. 
Oh! Sorry Miss, I forgot to thank you.

I am grateful for the Syrian Society for Social Development.

I am grateful for the best team. Thank you very much Miss. The taste of success is very sweet. I want to accomplish more and more and be a famous journalist. 
The young man was discharged from the center after few days.

Nevertheless, the team of the center did not stop its support, providing him with all school supplies and following up with him about his progress, particularly his grades and teachers’ opinions.

With determination and hard work, he carried on with his education. On the very first day of the winter term, the education officer invited the young man to Khaled Ibn Al-Waleed Juvenile Center to give a speech about his experience. He expressed a lot gratitude and appreciation and kept saying, “Failure is when you quit. You should never quit. I was able to pull it out.. all of you could be successful.

The taste of success is very sweet.”
One fine day the education officer received a call from the young man, bringing the good news of passing the General Secondary certificate Exam.

His words touched her heart, “Today is the culmination of my success. I am thankful to the Syrian Society for Social Development, I hold high respect and appreciation to the best team, I will never ever forget your support and Allah’s blesses.”

Distribution of Sewing Machines—Farah Community Center, Adra

In order to empower people by helping them generate livelihoods and enhancing their self-reliance, the Syrian Society for Social Development, in cooperation with the UNHCR, distributed professional toolkits (sewing machines) to a number of beneficiaries at the Farah Community Center, Adra, in the Rural Damascus Governorate.


The Program has had a significant impact on the lives of beneficiaries and their socioeconomic situation; in some cases, the beneficiary’s access to the toolkit was a real qualitative leap in their life.

 

People are no Longer Scared of me.. They like me

Alaa Mahmoud, a 10-year-old female child, suffering from Down syndrome, her 9-member family fled Sbenieh around 5 years ago and moved to Al-Mazarae neighborhood, Jaramana.


One of the mother’s friends who regularly attended sessions and activities at Athar Al-Farashah Community Center, attached to the Syrian Society for Social Development (SSSD), introduced her to the center, particularly the groups targeting people with special needs.


Upon visiting the center, the mother was enrolled in the friendship groups, where she talked about Alaa’s stubbornness and her violence with her siblings. The staff gradually integrated Alaa in the children activities and with close follow up she was later enrolled in the Home-Based Rehabilitation Program (HBRP).


Upon evaluating Alaa’s condition, targets were set and a family plan convenient to the mother was developed and explained, as well as an individual plan. The mother was also provided with an individual target-activity chart.
Eventually hard work and close follow up paid off and Alaa was able to meet most of the targets:
1- Alaa let go of quarrel with her siblings and peers and is constantly working on improving her communication skills with others.
2- She is able to follow the directions of mind and physical games when playing with her peers.
3- She is capable of identifying geometric shapes, drawing squares and circles, and assembling small puzzles (5-10 pieces).
4- She is capable of differentiating numbers and letters and counting (ascending order).
5- She is capable of responding to questions starting with “what if” using the corresponding, proper verbs.
6- Her ability of understanding jokes and funny incidents was developed.
7- Her physical ability was developed: she knows how to play jump rope, how to hop, and how to balance on very tight surfaces.
8- She was trained to observe and appreciate the fascinating world of nature.
9- She now chooses her clothes on her own in response to the weather conditions. She also knows how to change water temperature while washing her hands and taking a shower.
The mother talked about the great relief her family felt due to Alaa’s substantial developments; behavior improvements, awareness development, better interaction at home and in groups.

 

International Women’s Day Events Gender Equality for a Better Future

International Women’s Day (IWD) is celebrated on 8th of March each year to honor women and their contributions to the community. It is a day to recognize their great efforts and gains; to recall their benevolence and strive throughout the years.

Out of the belief of women’s capacity to develop the community, the GBV team attached to SSSD, in cooperation with the UNHCR, conducted events throughout the centers of Rural Damascus (Adra, Jaramana, Al-Hameh, Sayyedah Zainab) targeting women, men, adolescent boys and girls, and children.

Need: celebrating IWD.

Target: introducing IWD, the important role women play in the community, women’s abilities to overcome obstacles, empowering women, underpinning the importance of gender equality.

 

Jaramana, Athar Al-Frashah Center

Mother’s Group:

 

The team welcomed the women, offering them a flower labelled with their names and attaching it to the slogan of the event “Gender Equality for a Better Future” subtly introducing IWD.

The adolescents performed a play titled “Bisan” narrating the story of a girl who was subject to several types of parents’ abuse throughout her life; however, she finally overcomes domestic violence. The attendees agree that the girl’s story resembles their suffering, all of them faced difficulties and were subject to violence. Many of them were deprived of work due to husband’s jealousy or fear of wife’s success. Hearing the women’s opinions, the team highlighted the different types of gender-based violence.

Afterwards, the team asked the women “Were women able to overcome these difficulties and achieve their ambition?” They unanimously replied “The situation improved during the war, we have become aware of our rights attending sessions. We know that successful women are on par with successful men. We know how to manage our families properly. Women might be able to overcome some of the difficulties- not all of the difficulties. It depends on the environment.” Hearing their reply, the team asserted that each woman is capable of overcoming all sorts of difficulties; each woman can claim her rights and reach self-fulfillment through building mutual understanding with her husband.

Later, the team elaborated on the topic of gender equality, namely, rights and social roles. Women’s opinions covered the following: Women are deprived of their right to education, married at a young age. They are also deprived of their right to work, out of fear of being harassed. Women are responsible for housekeeping and raising up the children, whereas men are only responsible for providing for their families. Women do not have the right to choose their spouses.

 

The team inquired about the reasons of violence (customs and habits, the community, power is only given to men). Drawing on their answers, the team asserted that these reasons are weak and that each woman should believe in herself, her abilities and strength. Each woman is capable of achieving her targets.

Next, adolescents performed a play shedding light on the roles women and men play. The play underpinned the importance of proper communication and participation in establishing a healthy husband-wife relationship and a healthy family. The team then read aloud the supportive messages (You and I are capable of miracles. He and she establish love, family, and happiness..strength shine out of the couple)

Then a lawyer introduced the main changes of the civil status law and handled all the inquiries revolving (marriage contract and witnesses, marriage age, guardianship of children, dowry, divorce, alimony).

The event was concluded by a comedy play performed by the women’s committee narrating the new changes of the civil status law and sending messages (I am ambitious and strong. I will be in charge and prove that I could be successful.)

 

Al-Hameh, Salam Center

Women’ s Group:

 

The team distributed posters in the main street to introduce the event. The volunteers distributed brochures, reaching out to individuals and attracting them to the exhibition.

The team welcomed the attendees, offering each one of them a flower and directing them to the exhibition, which displayed handicrafts, recycled handicrafts, sewing products, Aghabani, accessories, detergents, meals, and sweets.

An adolescent girl delivered a poetry introducing IWD and the event, and then each woman participating in the exhibition introduced her products, how to make them, and the available tools she relied on, as detailed.

 

  • One of the women recycled simple materials and expired items into beneficial, neat and beautiful items.
  • Another woman shared her experience, talking about her training workshop in making detergents, shampoos, hair conditioners, hand and feet lotions, and how it boosted her income. She also talked about the importance of the exhibition in networking and attracting new customers.
  • One woman expressed her happiness, “The feminine side could be creatively reflected in simple pieces of accessories.”

 

The reaction of the attendees was favorable.

One woman said, “I was not aware of IWD. This day creates a space for self-expression and provides a chance to show off women’s creative and productive sides.”

 

 

One man said, “It is beautiful to witness and celebrate IWD, especially during times of crisis, given the sudden changes of family roles, which of women were able to prove they were great achievers, regardless of the community limitations exerted on them and the very limited resources allocated.”

 

The team concluded the event by saying, “Relying on their artistic and creative spirit and their feminine side, women could achieve their goals, prove themselves, and activate their social role. The community will always impose obstacles against the progress of women.”

 

The exhibition was like a train station at Qudsaya Park. It was the first time the team targets beneficiaries from Qudsaya, introducing SSSD and its services. It was also remarkable to witness the attendance of some key persons from the area, a manager of a private hospital and a group of teachers.

 

The exhibition acted as a bridge connecting participating women with shop owners, who reached out to the woman requesting some samples, particularly shampoos and cleaning tools. One accessory shop owner struck a deal with the woman who makes accessories.

 

Adra, Farah Center

Women’s Group:

 

The team began the celebration by welcoming the women and delivering a poem to instill a sense of pride, and then introduced IWD (working women in New York fought for their rights for years).

Next, the team displayed a video about the life stages of women and related social roles and discussed the content with them. The women were impressed by the video, one of them said, “The part that shows how the girl helped her elderly parents really touched my heart, as it underpins the giving spirit of females and their great multitasking abilities, as opposed to males who might neglect looking after their parents, as a result of their responsibilities and life pressures.”

Later, the women attended a play and expressed their admiration of the performance that reflected reality in detail, wishing that men would really play women’s role for one day to get the real feel women experience and the huge responsibilities they manage.

In closing, the adolescents of the center performed a dance show, congratulating women on IWD and spreading happiness. The team then distributed cards, asking each woman to write down greetings to another woman present in the event, a mother, a friend or a close neighbor. The team also encouraged women to do something special on this day, like making a cake or practicing a hobby. Women’s reactions were great, they exchanged greeting cards and expressed their joy and gratitude for the efforts exerted by SSSD team.

“This day is ours; this beautiful place gathers us; we can collectively celebrate and enjoy our self-worth.”

 

Sayyedah Zainab, Dafa Center

Women’s and Men’s Group:

 

The team began the event by welcoming the women and introducing IWD, and then displayed a historical video of IWD, highlighting women’s great roles in families and communities throughout the years. Many men from the audience were impressed by the video.

Next, a theatre sketch was performed, talking about a husband mistreating and belittling his wife, ordering her to fulfill all of his needs. The team then swiftly introduced women’s rights, the most important ones: the right to education, gender equality, the right to work, inheritance rights, freedom of expression, the right to choose a life partner, the right to choose pregnancy time when the woman is physically and emotionally prepared… etc.

Then the team heard the opinions of women on their duties (look after the husband and kids, raise up the kids and instill high values toward love, cooperation and respect.)

The team stressed that gender equality advocates equal rights and equal duties, which guarantees a happy and successful life for males and females. Gender equality empowers women to overcome difficulties and achieve success, which is positively reflected on women’s lives and their relationships with their spouses and kids.

Afterwards, the adolescents performed a dance and closed it with supportive statements (It is your right to enjoy practicing your favorite hobby. It is your right to participate in social activities. You resemble half of the community and you make the other half.)

Later, the team displayed a group of photos of women who were able to recraft history, proving that women are capable of taking on heroic and great roles in life, even though they faced huge obstacles, the community’s stereotypes (women are weak, their abilities and skills are limited). These women were and are still live examples of strong will and success, they had to play men’s roles and they were able to obtain some of their rights, during the crisis and post crisis.

The team discussed the obstacles women face, limiting their self-fulfillment, such as, pushing them to be obedient to the husband, forcing them into early marriage and denying them of their rights. Growing up, females are weakened as part of the social norms and customs.

A child from the center and a woman composed and delivered poems pertaining the ramifications of denying women of their rights on the physical, emotional, and social aspects, such as, isolation, anxiety, divorce, revenge, and suicide... etc.

To close up, the volunteers prepared and displayed a video, telling the story of a woman who was denied of her rights throughout her different life stages and how she was determined to succeed and fulfill her ambition.

Toward the end of the event, the attendees reached a conclusion that de-activating women’s role adversely affects women and their families, whereas activating their role contributes to community development and prosperity.

Women suggested many solutions: Conduct awareness sessions, targeting different age groups, especially males. Enroll women in vocational training courses, empowering them to work inside or outside their homes. Activate laws supportive of women. Conduct activities at the center that support effective communication and highlight the importance of dialogue and mutual understanding as means of avoiding conflict.

Ending the event, some of the women hailed positive words expressing self-worth, self-appreciation and self-care: “Each and every year, we are the mother, the sister, and the friend. We are the strength, the generous givers to our kids and spouses.”

 

Adolescents’ and Children’s Group:

The event started off with welcoming the children and adolescents and introducing IWD by displaying a video, telling the story of a woman who practiced her rights, while growing up and during marriage, and how it positively affected her life. Some of the impressing comments of the children on the video, “A mother is a safe haven for her children.” “A girl is successful when she practices her rights and receives support from the people around her.”

Next, the team displayed a video of a TV program that delivers questions related to gender equality in terms of rights and duties and the children were given the chance to respond. Their opinions pertaining rights revolved around: the right to play, the right to non-discrimination, the right to education, the right to healthcare, and the right to live with a non-violent family. The team asserted that gender equality should be practiced by males and females. As for duties, the children’s opinions were: respect others, commit to ethical values role- modeled by the parents, study and work hard. The team asserted that males and females have the same rights and duties, and that each right someone gains is intertwined with an obligation, he/she should fulfill.

A group of children from the center delivered poems, shedding light on the important role women play in the community and how to invest in their capabilities and multitasking skills to improve their lives.

Later, the team displayed a video, telling the stories of remarkable women throughout different historical eras. These women were leaders and geniuses, and had shown extinguished physical and innovative abilities. The children then told stories of successful women from their community.

Afterwards, the team opened up discussions with the children regarding the physical, emotional and social effects, as a result of denying women of their rights, de-activating their contribution to the community. The opinions of the children revolved around: depression, weak personality, isolation, sadness, the community moves backward.

The team summarized the views of the children and then moved to displaying a video prepared by the volunteers, telling the story of a woman who was denied of her rights throughout her different life stages and how she was determined to succeed and fulfill her ambition. The children hailed some of the statements they heard in the video:

  • “Being a woman is not an underprivilege. On the contrary, prove to yourself and to the world that you are strong and capable.”
  •  “You have so many rights, do not allow anyone to deprive you of them.”
  • “Life is all about hardship, never give up, be patient and determined, fight, and you will achieve success.”

The children proposed the following: Strict laws forbidding the parents or the husband from denying females of their rights. Illiteracy courses targeting different age groups, especially women.

Closing up the event, the children collectively hailed:

  • “Each and every year you resemble strength and generous giving.”
  • “Thank you for being there for us.”
  • “Gender equality guarantees happiness and success to both genders.”

“My School’s my Friend” Campaign

The Syrian Society for Social Development (SSSD) conducted a joint activity between the teachers and the adolescent students to instill the spirit of participation and joy and to strengthen the bond between the teachers and students. This activity was carried out to tackle school violence prevalence in the local community observed by SSSD team, aiming at moving away from traditional molds of teacher-student relationship.
20 teachers and 12 students were part of the activity.
The activity greatly affected the adolescents; they now see their teachers in new eyes. They got along very well during games.
One child commented, “I have never thought I would witness such a day, at which I could play with my teacher, who had been angry all the time.”
Another child said, “I was surprised to see my teacher, who had been my third grade teacher. Thank you very much for this lovely opportunity.”
As part of the activity, the adolescents were introduced to the sufferings the teachers face while managing big classrooms, up to 60 students per class, and the absence of support jeopardizing the quality of teaching and exerting a lot of pressure on teachers. During the games, the team focused on the idea that it is crucial for students to trust and follow the instructions of the teacher and how it impacts their future.
One teacher said, “When I know how to make the student feel loved and secure, he will like his school. A child is like a seedling and a teacher is like the source of light and nutrients.”

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